In a study of children aged 2-5, parents interrupted their daughters more than their sons, and fathers were more likely to talk simultaneously with their children than mothers were. Jennifer Coates says: “It seems that fathers try to control conversation more than mothers… and both parents try to control conversation more with daughters than with sons. The implicit message to girls is that they are more interruptible and that their right to speak is less than that of boys.”
Girls and boys’ differing understanding of when to talk, when to be quiet, what is polite and so on, has a visible impact on the dynamics of the classroom. Just as men dominate the floor in business meetings, academic conferences and so on, so little boys dominate in the classroom - and little girls let them.—
this explains my dad so hard.
and also i feel vindicated in my former one woman campaign to dominate classroom discussions, because i definitely got a lot of women talking when they realized that the professor listened to me as much as the guys.
like, just on a really simple level without getting into the gendered aspect of it, please ask children/adults whether they have a mother or father before being like “does your mom…?” or you know etc etc
like I haven’t had a dad for seven years and it’s not like it’s remotely hard to talk about but it’s just so awkward when people assume I have two parents and I have to constantly be like “well my dad is dead, but my mom…”