how to identify “boy” clothes and “girl” clothes
are you a boy? your clothes are boy clothes.
are you a girl? your clothes are girl clothes.
are you outside the binary of boy and girl? so are your clothes.
did someone just tell you your clothes don’t match your gender identity? they are a trashcan and their clothes are trashcan clothes.
Or in the words of Eddie Izzard..
Because this cannot be reblogged enough.
Screaming silently in adoration
we’ve taught girls to romanticise nearly everything a boy does. when i was younger i thought it was cute that boys chased the girl even after she said no. i loved it when after a girl moved away from a kiss, the guy would pull her back and force it on. i thought a guy saying ‘i won’t take a no for an answer’ was passionate and romantic. we’re literally always teaching girls to romanticise abusive traits.
Additionally, we teach girls that they should play ‘hard to get’, which basically means saying ‘no’ to mean ‘yes’; and we teach boys that girls play hard to get - so they often mean ‘yes’ when they’re saying ‘no’. Then we are shocked that they don’t ever listen to ‘no’.
Listen very carefully to the whole Ray Rice situation. Sit and pay attention. Notice that, aside from the obvious connection of Janay Palmer being his spouse, notice how often the men discussing this in the public eye throw around the words “mothers”, “daughters”, and “sisters.” There is no consideration to the fact that she deserves respect and proper treatment simply because she is an individual with a base worth; it’s about what relationship she could have to the men having a discussion. Notice how we live in a world where most men - at least with access to a public forum - can only defend Janay Palmer as a possession.
This is problematic because it further allows abusers to abuse with indemnity to a point. That, as long as no one cares for this person, the abuser can do whatever they want to this person in their own misinterpretation of a relationship. That the familial relationships “mother”, “daughter”, “sister” are women an abuser will generally not assault if it is their own family, but they will assault their wives or girlfriends because they do not see them as people. For one to require relation to have empathy is dangerous in addressing the issue because there are millions of people who abuse and don’t have a camera on them when they abuse.
Gold stars all around.