INFJ Confessions 683) I've grown up in a reality where unlike others, I can find truth or direction or guidance in my dreams. It does feel a bit crazy and irrational but I'm realizing that the life of an INFJ is rarely rational at all.
INFJ Confessions 682) It doesn't matter how self-reflective I am or how much I know or understand if my feelings out weigh them. If my heart is breaking, I find no comfort in knowing that this isn't the end of the world, there is no peace in remembering that I will move on eventually, and no consolidation in understanding that this moment will pass. When my heart breaks, it's hard to feel anything or know anything else.
INFJ Confessions 681) I adore it when people get enthusiastic about their jobs or their passions, I feel like they excitement it's so contagious! It makes me want to get up and do something constructive, I find it so inspiring. Never be ashamed of loving things intensely, folks! <3
INFJ Confessions 680) I feel as if I'm always drawn to bad things. Within the past several months I have witnessed: A man and his three German Shepherds were run over in my neighborhood in the morning before school; Domestic abuse in the neighborhood; A drunk driver crashing outside of my house; and just last night on the way home, I saw two men run over a Bichon Frise puppy. I feel as if I'm shrouded in darkness, a lot of the time. I'm also drawn to depressed and broken people. I have to save them.
I was wondering, what is your idea of fun, fellow INFJs? :-)
I like immersing in emotionally charged fiction, and talking to somebody who gets me. That escalating of concepts that are somehow linked that INFJs do and bounce it off someone who gets it :’) figuring people out from afar, like characters or celebrities or historical figures… dissecting events…
INFJ Confessions 676) To me the notion of unrequited love is incomprehensible, how can you not love someone back? If you didn't know, then I get it. But if you do? How can you just not return the love?
INFJ Confessions 675) When people need help, I seem to give them good, helpful advice, but no one can do that for me. I guess it's "the counselor" within us, but I wish I could find someone to help me, too.
INFJ Confessions 671) Although it is comforting to finally have some peace with yourselves, don’t allow MBTI to justify your weaknesses. “I’m an INFJ and typically hard to understand, so it is okay for me to remain misunderstood by my loved ones”. It isn’t an excuse for you to live with your weaknesses for the rest of your lives. Now that you know what your weaknesses are, work to rise above them. Don’t allow MBTI to pigeonhole your view of yourself! The most revolutionary INFJs for example, were ones who manage to develop their extraversion (Gandhi & Martin Luther King) You can too. I care a lot for all you INFJs and want you to know that you are all far more nuanced that what the MBTI profile page tells you.
INFJ Confessions 670) Sometimes when I'm at home alone I make up stories and scenes in my head. I'll be a character, doing monologues, dialogues and make everything up as I go along. If someone walked in on me they'd see me talking to myself as if my reality was completely changed. Sometimes I'll go hours creating these elaborate stories for myself. I feel like I have to do this in order to be sane, even though talking to yourself usually qualifies you as insane. I need to create and pretend. Real life is not enough.
INFJ Confessions 667) Where the fuck is the sense of humor? Whats with all this angst. You guys know full well that everything is so much better taken with a shrug of the shoulder, smile on your face, and a random thought about the dirty stray cat in your backyard. Lighten up guys, I mean shit, the world is ending this year.
INFJ Confessions 666) People get angry at me when I ask them to do a certain thing that hurts me, or when I snap back, "you seem to have lost your sense of humor", thing is, it never was a joke to me, I thought they meant it every single time, I just can endure ridiculous amounts of mistreatment.
INFJ Confessions 665) I have a terrible time telling how real my reality is sometimes. I get so wrapped up in a romanticized scenario that I start to believe it might come true. I've come to realize the crushing reality of how awful existence and humanity is. That's why I refuse to give in, because I can always romanticize that something good is out there waiting to be found, and not even I can prove that their isn't. That's the thing about existence, it's wonderfully mysterious.
INFJ Confessions 663) I apologise for my detachment. It's just that I am not interested in what you have to say. I can't entirely engage in a conversation with you on your favourite topics because they are too conventional, which makes them boring, and on top of that, I know the reason behind you wanting to talk about them (also, boring).
INFJ Confessions 662) I'm constantly torn between the part of me that wants to take risks and follow my dreams and the part that just wants to play it safe and live quietly and contently. For most of my life my practical, better-safe-than-sorry instinct has been winning, but lately it takes all my willpower not to run away from the complacency that my current life is leading towards and completely start over. But then I realize how insane that sounds and just back on auto-pilot.
INFJ Confessions 660) Every time someone makes me upset or mad, I'm always the one who ends up apologizing for feeling the way I do even though it was the other person who made me feel that way. The fact that they'll be unhappy that I'm upset or mad at them makes me feel this crushing sense of guilt -- even if it's their fault that I got upset at them in the first place. I'm sick of always having to be wrong even when I'm right simply because I hate it when I make people upset.
About INFJs coming off as Ts: often I despise reasoning not somehow based on objective facts despite the fact that my first impressions and reasonings are usually based on feeling and intuition. It's a form of self-critique for me, I think. I see the flaws in my thinking and try to fix them.
This is kind of in response to the INFJ relationship/love anon; I feel the same way. Once I love someone, it's really hard for me to get over them. This is also a bit of venting-I'm friends with this amazing guy. I fell head over heels for him, and I thought liked me, but then he came out of the closet. I know that for OBVIOUS reasons, we can't be together, but I just would like some advice on dealing mentally. I still love him. It's been forever since he told me, but I still can't get over him.
Advice, lovelies? xx
EDIT: Only two things have worked for me: cutting off all communication and avoiding anything that reminds you of the person until the day you die OR coming to terms with it being impossible and just keep loving them but NEVER allowing yourself the hope. It’s not unrequited love what kills, false hope is the thing that does. Find comfort in how much worse it could be and it’ll be easier :) that being said, I always prefer a friend to a romantic interest so this is probably really bad advice :( xx
My INFJ sibling acts a lot like a T. I myself am an INTJ and I know that in certain ways she models herself after me and tries to get my approval, so that could be the culprit. She can be extremely logical, calculating and objective, but in most ways she is clearly an INFJ. I guess my question is; do many INFJ's act like T's? Does utilizing their Ti when they so choose come naturally to them?
I can be pretty calculating and objective when working towards a goal but most of the times even behind superficial goals, the reasoning is purely emotional and rarely selfish.
INFJ Confessions 656) You hurt me. Yet I still miss you. You betrayed me, yet I'm the one who feels guilty for cutting you out of my life. I miss our friendship, before you broke my trust. I miss the closeness we had. I hate what you told me. I hate the lingering emptiness I feel left over.
To the anon who asked about INFJ love/relationships, the answer is a resounding YES. I started dating my current boyfriend (who is an INTJ) around three years ago. We broke up once and were out of communication for about a year, and during that year, I could never seem to connect with anyone else. Then after a year, we spoke for just a couple weeks, and just like that, I realized that it was because I’d never stopped being in love with him. And it’s not only with romantic relationships— with my friends and family, once you’ve gotten close to me, I’m never letting you go. I can’t love/date casually. But that’s just this INFJ, I can’t speak for everyone else. :)
INFJ Confessions 655) I want to be able to tell other people my problems like they're so comfortable doing with me, but I can't. I'm afraid of being annoying or a burden. Also, it's just too hard to try and explain my problems accurately without stumbling over my words. Instead I tend to just minimize them or brush them aside, and then later I feel frustrated that I have no one to get support from.
Sigh, you didn't post my confession. And I submitted it more than 5 days ago.
If I don’t post a confession, it may have gotten lost due to a tumblr glitch or it is still in the queue. We used to post 14 confessions a day and yesterday we upped it to 20, however, we do not receive 20 confessions a day, sometimes we receive 2, sometimes we receive 30, so 5 days is just an average, due to the new frequency this delay may decrease.
When you submit a note about your confession not having been posted yet, please include information on what your confession is about, so I can check if it is in the queue or it got lost. As you can see, latest posted confession is 654, but we have confessions up to 713 in the queue. I can’t control how soon a confession is posted and if tumblr messes up, I can’t fix it - but please know that I DO NOT, EVER, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE censor confessions. EVER. x
Has there ever been a poll on academic interests? Like, what particular academic subjects followers are good at/enjoy? I read somewhere that INFJs are supposed to be good at writing, memorizing, etc. This really has no relevance, but I'm always curious about things like this.
INFJ Confessions 654) my sensing is not quite as acute as confession 584, but I swear I have a radar for each emotion. I don't necessarily FEEL the emotion along with people unless it's extreme, but I can pinpoint people by their posture, their gaze, their breathing, even their hand movements, and I too get overloaded with all this information. and I often gravitate to the ones I think need the most love
If more than one option applies, remember you can vote and then go back and vote another option! :)
Also, I want to link a blog for advice for INFJs! Go here and follow right away :) I’m sure it’ll be of most useful :D
Much love, beautiful ones! Hope Sunday is being kind :) xxx
EDIT: Upon closer inspection it seems that the poll won’t let you pick more than one! :( like, it says it does but doesn’t add the vote, I’m really sorry, maybe leave a comment stating the disorder that you couldn’t vote for? Like say, you want to vote for anxiety and depression, you managed to vote anxiety but depression is left out - leave a comment saying “also suffer from depression” :) you can just say “anon” no need to reveal your name at all xx
INFJ Confessions 653) I hate my ex-boyfriend. And I know I shouldn't because it's not a kind, loving thing to do--which is how I normally behave. But the way he hurt me, and the way I had to convince myself not to love him anymore is too much. If I hadn't replaced my love with hate, I would have wanted to come crawling back to him. And now that we've been apart over a year, I don't know how to get rid of the hate.
What is your view(people who follow) on sexuality in a relationship? One night stands fine for you? All is fine once it's official? Is there a wait time? Do you have no desire? Do you consider yourself demisexual? I'd like to know where people of similar viewpoints stand.
Personally, I’m demisexual, but I have been in love with 4 people and only 2 of them have I been interested in sexually in any degree, and even more so, only one of them in an active way.
I’ve only been in one relationship and we didn’t really wait much.
I find nothing wrong with one night stands, but I have no interest in them.
My opinion on sex is that it should be balanced? it doesn’t matter how well you know the person or anything, but if someone is looking for a soulmate and the other one is just wanting a one-off, then it’s not right, but if both parties are aware of the other’s expectations, then all’s good.
INFJ Confessions 652) I constantly doubt myself and have the worst time making up my mind. My current situation: after getting suspended for a semester for two failed semesters, I can't do my major at my current school. Do I change schools, leaving my comfort zone behind? Do I change majors and have to make new plans? I hate not knowing what the future has in store for me, especially when my own head is at fault.
This is boy-troubles-anon from yesterday. Thank you for the encouragement, and I really hope this is going to work out:) I have one question (I know I'm overthinking again...) It's said that INFJs should follow their instincts, because they're usually accurate... what if my mind is saying, "Are you crazy? You have totally different moral views," etc. etc... but my heart is screaming, "JUST TELL THE DAMNED BOY YOU LOVE HIM. HE IS COMPLETELY AMAZING AND YOU'RE THE ONLY ONE WHO SEES HIS POTENTIAL!"
INFJ Confessions 649) At random I roomed with and INFJ girl my freshman year. I find out that we both share the same birthday. We both are INFJ's. We are wonderful roommates because we understand each other without even saying a word. And now she is my best friend. Soul Friend.