INFJ Confession 2025) I've figured out why I haven't ever had a boyfriend. I'm an introverted feminist. Most guys are terrified of me, and if any guys DO like me, they're probably introverted too, so neither of us will make the first move. I'm not saying this is a bad thing; it will probably save me a lot of heartbreak as a teenager. However, I can't shake this feeling that I'll be alone forever. I can't even be an old cat-lady; I'm allergic to them. -_-
INFJ Confession 2024) I have this irrational fear of authority. I'm not a rule-breaker though, but I worry about everything. When people go through a list of rules (and consequences), when I see police, when I see our school principal walking by.. and I don't understand it. I've nothing to be scared of. I just want to know how NOT to do this. It's very bothersome. And worrisome.
INFJ Confession 2023) Today went horribly. One friend ditched on something she said she would do, then another, he just dismissed me entirely. These are the two people whom I thought were my closest friends. To add to this, two of my near-enemies have been better friends today than anyone. I got home and saw a message online from the first 'friend;' maybe to check on me to see how I was? She just wanted something from me. Honestly, I'm not as mad at the two of them as I am at myself for thinking they were different.
INFJ Confession 2021) This sounds ridiculous for a 22-year-old, but I am and have always been an old soul. And this sounds incredibly ridiculous and conceited, but I feel "wiser" than most other people. It all strikes me as being so stupid to think/feel this way though. The silver lining? I'll likely make an awesome grandparent :)
To the person who said s/he felt self-conscious while exercising: well, I have the opposite problem. I am naturally very skinny and I feel like I always get judging stares when I'm at the gym (actually trying to gain muscle). For one reason or another, it's hard not to care about what people think, especially as INFJs. But sometimes other people have the same struggles. I constantly feel judged, too.
INFJ Confession 2019) You are the first person I've met who is like me and whom I am also attracted to and who is also single at the same time. We've spent some time together, and I'm pretty sure you feel the same way, but I am too shy to say anything and if you're like me, you are too. Plus, the whole thing is fraught due to circumstance. But I don't want to miss the chance for something great. I wanted to invite you over this afternoon to listen to records and drink beer. But I didn't. #proceedingwithcauthion
INFJ Confession 2018) Friendships are give and take. But that doesn't mean I'm going to have a meltdown if we talk about you more than we talk about me. Taking about me makes me feel conceited if I do it too much.
INFJ Confession 2017) My mother thinks I'm crazy for caring about other people so much. While they don't always ask how my day was, or love everything I do, I still know they genuinely care. They just need to know and hear that I care more than I need to hear that from them.
INFJ Confession 2016) I want to start running in a nearby park... but I get really self-conscious and shy and I can't run, or do any type of exercise, I'm overweight and I feel like everyone (fit and skinny) is watching and judging me
INFJ Confession 2014) I've been confessed to by a few different guys recently. I'm happy with my current boyfriend, but there's still something that bothers me: these guys have ended up dating or liking someone else mere weeks after confessing. If it were me, I wouldn't be able to let go of someone that quickly. It just makes me feel like they don't actually care at all. And then I think that I'm the only one who thinks like that at all...I think I get too attached to people.
INFJ Confession 2012) I love caring for someone. I can do anything for someone that I cherish (inculding friends) that often leads them to think that i'm in love with someone I care for (which i'm not.) I just love to see someone precious to me is happy. I wonder if this is infj's things
INFJ Confession 2008) Most everything that I love I had awful first impressions of: music, movies, games, people, places, activities. After a few months of not coming in contact with it I'll see it again and wonder how I ever could have disliked it in the first place.
INFJ Confession 2007) I often imagine horrifying "what if" situations which usually involve injury. Sometimes I feel very suffocated by these thoughts, as they tend happen when I am with others. I imagine getting in a car accident which would kill my lover in the passenger seat; being rammed into a wall at a concert and shattering my kneecap; my dog breaking off from its leash and running away; dropping my expensive camera and ruining it. I react to these thoughts strongly and have to hide how distraught I am.
To 2001 - Don't feel pressured to drink in college! There's plenty of people who don't, and you will certainly make friends. However, do note that your moral values shouldn't be used to judge everyone else, and there is a fine line between drinking socially, and abusing alcohol :) Keep an open mind with regards to the behavior and choices of others, but don't ever feel pressured to do anything you feel uncomfortable with. --- An INFJ who didn't drink in college and made plenty of friends :)
HOLYSDFLKJASLKFJASLF MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING. That realization is about to make me implode! I looked it up on Wikipedia, and wow, I have this weird obsessive motion I've been doing for YEARS and it almost always accompanies my daydreams. And I am quite weirdly attached to my "imaginary friends" but the more social I've become over the years, the less I daydream. I have these daydream friends I've taken with me from middle school through college, and my "story" has changed but... just WOW.
Hi - with regards to that post warning women that is being reblogged all over Tumblr: I think it's good that people are being warned of scary and dangerous behaviour, but if you check Snopes, they point out that this story/email/chain has been going around for YEARS on the internet and that while some of it is to be believed, and for the most part, it's better to be safe than sorry, not all of it is true, and there is better advice for how to deal with those situations.
Oh my goodness at secret 1974!!! I find that ESFJs are always either happy, which I obviously don't mind, or fussing over NOTHING! I just think they're so ridiculous haha and I say that with love (I have 4 good ESFJ friends). I find it difficult to become close to them, to the point of telling them anything deeply personal though, because they're always on a different wavelength. And, I find them incredibly stuck in wanting what society wants of them.
Ways I jog my Se to compensate for the occasionally over revving Ni.
- Hug a tree. Literally, go hug a tree. It’s stabilizing being, literally, deeply rooted. This usually brings me out of my intuitive networks and back to sensing.
- Hypnosis for Relaxation apps. Being deeply relaxed lubricates being open to experiencing through the senses. Also mindful breathing meditation.
- Question Everything (I believe or am personally invested in) with deep breathing. Deep breathing allows me to open up and face the possibilities that I know I rather wish weren’t so possible, to accept them as potential realities that I can handle and muse what handling them well looks and feels like. Because fighting the knowing of the intuition only makes that thing more persistent! And they’re only possibilities after all, not reality.
- Reality Herself. For all of my intuitive “seeing” the only thing that’s real is that very moment. Buddhists make it a point of practice to take a moment to focus on nothing else but the physical reality of that moment. What are my hands touching, how does that feel, that sort of thing.
Hope that helps any of my fellow INFJ’s out there. Or really any intense and passionately loving people (read “anxious” lol).
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INFJ Confession 2005) Reading this blog makes me feel like there are people in the same situation as me, it makes me feel like there are people who understand what goes on in my head, and it makes me feel like I'm not so alone in the world. It gives me hope that I'll find someone in the world who doesn't think I'm a complete weirdo recluse
INFJ Confession 2001) I have this huge moral issue with the consumption of alcohol. Something about it seems so immoral and vile to me, like why must people depend on such a terrible substance to bring them joy, and to make friends? To me it's all fake and wrong, and I'm worried I won't make friends in college because I do not like to associate with this people, plus the fact that I generally can't make friends Like everyone. is this an infj thing?
INFJ Confession 2000) I got my GCSE results today. While waiting for them I felt a little bit butterfly-stomach nervous but nothing more. However, when lots of other students came into the room I felt a lot more nervous and even sick. When I went over to a friend, I felt even more sick. I asked her if she felt sick and she said she did. I really do wonder if I am very sensitive to others' feelings or something...
In response to the Se problem confession, here's some advice: Find a nice sunny day. Go to the park, preferably with a pond or lake but not essential (though it helps). Bring with you a pen, pencil, and a notepad/sketchpad. Find an empty bench, or if you want, sit on the grass. Close your eyes, lie on the grass if you want, and just listen to your surroundings. Eventually you'll start thinking random associated things in your head. Then start writing/drawing whatever you like ;D Hope it helps!!!
In another response to the Se confession, try to understand reality. As INFJ our Ni is very powerful, it sorts out what we see and creates a giant network. Try to find "reality" and your Ni should do the rest. You just need to focus.
In response to our dear friend having trouble with her Se, I personally find mine pretty strong most of the time. Play some music that makes noises like the ocean, or rain, or nature, and listen to some earthy music. Sit outside, or just kind of go for a short walk, and kind of just feel everything around you. Write about it, etc, because it'll help you connect to the world around you, and maybe kind of help you out? asdf;jk post limit no
This isn't a confession, just so you know! I've recently been having major issues with my Se; I feel extremely cut off from reality to the point that it's messing with my daily life. Just wondering if any INFJs have figured out ways to get more in touch with their Sensing... I really need some help :(
Advice, lovelies? :(
Maybe hugs will help? *hugs* some in real life too preferably I guess but yeah? maybe contact? best of luck, dear xxx
INFJ Confession 1999) I feel like I'm the only person who has never told anybody my secrets/hardships. And I don't even mind. It's not like I'm going to explode. It's just something I've personally learned to live with that I've done/been through. Why would I put that burden on someone else? (But I love when other people tell me their secrets or need advice.)
I wanted to reply to the person who said they fall in love with the ideal of someone. I understand what you meant when you said you believe you fall in love with what they CAN be becauseI always fall for someones potential rather than what they are in the present.I am such an eternal optimist i can't let myself believe someone is going to be a mess forever, i always look at how beautiful their potential is behind the mess. lol.
INFJ Confession 1998) I sometimes get overwhelmed with love for someone that I love and I wish I can tell them how I feel. But eventually I don't because I realize they won't really get where I am coming from and that they won't understand why I feel the way I do. I guess I just feel to much.
INFJ Confession 1997) If I really pay attention, I can find myself nailing down every aspect of a person's personality down to their idiosyncrasies. Sometimes this drives me nuts--I end up even adapting some of these behaviors when I'm around them. On the other hand, it gives me more of an insight into how they "operate" and I can pick up on those cues that tell me they're not doing all right at all.
For the person who talked about falling for the idea of someone, I saw this on quote-book and thought of your words: “People, I have discovered, are layers and layers of secrets. You believe you know them, that you understand them, but their motives are always hidden from you, buried in their own hearts. You will never known them, but sometimes you decide to trust them.” Insurgent, Veronica Roth.(I don't know how applicable it is, but it seemed relevant :)