I hate the quote in confession 1561. I talk plenty about people, but not because I'm gossiping about them. I take an actual interest in the lives of the people I talk about. Frequently, I'm trying to figure them out and help them, or I'm curious about them and they intrigue me. It doesn't exclude talking about ideas. And give me any scientific theory or idea - I would love to discuss it with you! *grumble grumble grumble* sorry haha
It’s a quote that bothers me as well, but I guess talking about who people are in essence is technically discussing ideas? “talking about people” would be more along the lines of gossip rags? maybe? i don’t know haha ;( xx
INFJ Confession 1566) “I am being perfectly serious when I ask this: can somebody explain to me what the big fucking deal is about dancing? Like… maybe even a psychological explanation may be warranted here. Because I don’t fucking get it. But I basically just got a long lecture about how that’s what is gonna get me laid.” You write things like this and then it becomes even clearer to me that you really didn’t know who I was. You didn’t understand me at all, or what I value. You’re so obsessed with obtaining sex, because you think it’s so important. You think that’ll make you happy, you think it could make you stop hating yourself. I think at least part of the reason why you’re depressed is that you think if you had a lot of sex, it help the way you currently value yourself. I’m honestly disgusted about how desperate you are for sex, and offended. Here’s another reason I cut you out of my life. You’re such an insensitive person, who never knew who I was. I almost want to promise myself to never let you back into my life. Now I wonder why I was even friends with you in the first place.
INFJ Confession 1565) Honestly? The reason I've so adamant for so long about keeping my group of best friends together because is that our families all divorced, broke up, and/or left us to fend for ourselves. Family is very important to me and I want my friends to feel like they have some kind of family to lean on that won't abandon them, even if their family of origin can't be that for them.
INFJ Confession 1563) Sometimes, and it's just the oddest thing, I'll be talking to someone and a negative feeling about the person will strike me. It's not something that I've thought or felt about them before, but a sudden word from seemingly nowhere that changes my perception of them. And the worst part is is that I can't shake it once it's there.
INFJ Confession 1562) Sometimes when I talk to those close to me about my problems, I feel like I'm being selfish for sharing my burdens. I used to keep things to myself, but I became "spoiled" by the fact that I have loyal friends who are always there for me. I tend to vent and rant a lot due to my tendency to always react to everything needing to let it out (writing is on hold for now) Would they prefer I kept my trivial woes to myself? I hate worrying about the same things, and I wonder if they do too.
To the anon wondering about the ESTJ/INFJ couple, I dated an ESTJ, and I had never been so comfortable with anyone else in my life. Everything we did together felt so natural, and I honestly did not have to hide my true self from him. The one thing that I found difficult in my relationship with an ESTJ was communication, and it's hard to figure out what he's thinking most of the time. But, either way, my world was full of color when I was with him. I've never been happier. Good luck to you!
I am an INFJ and I was wondering if my ESTJ friend and I work out as a couple. We've been really close friends for over four years and we're both 20 and 19 and I want to see if our friendship could be anything more. Does anyone know from experience what ESTJ compatibility is with INFJ?
Confession 1536 absolutely breaks my heart on so many levels! :( Not having someone close to talk to is already a devastating enough feeling; add to that the fact that this person can't talk to their spouse absolutely crushes me. I don't know why it's affecting and upsetting me so much.
AH! Confession 1546 really struck a chord with me! I've completely lost my inner peace and direction in life. Avoiding certain bad influences for the past month has done wonders and I can feel myself getting back on the right path. This encouraged me a great deal :)
INFJ Confession 1556) As a general rule, INFJ's tend to have very high standards for themselves and others. I think as a child, I realized that I was holding others to an idealistic standard, and I consciously fought against this and became rather hypersensitive to my behavior. Unfortunately, this backfired. Now I have very low standards for everyone else, to the point where abusive relationships (even amongst friends) is common. Where is my happy medium?
INFJ Confession 1555) I want to hug God and death. I want them to tell me things, pure things, and I want to cry. I want them to shape me and mold me, and in return I will be wise. I want to look at things of beauty - life and death - and be able to see through them. And when the time comes, I want my soul to be lifted and kept soft and warm in death's arms and I want to be put away, like the homecoming of a favourite book on its shelf. I want to be filed and remembered.
INFJ Confession 1553) Show them what you're capable of. "There is little doubt that INFJs have an instinctive gift for achieving greatness, but doing so may come at the cost of personal fulfillment. While they don't need to sacrifice their high expectations, INFJs should understand how occasionally failing to meet those expectations can seem more important than it truly is. Rather than the failure representing the path toward mediocrity, it may be the door to personal satisfaction."
INFJ Confession 1552) Why should infjs even feel oppressed by being "alone" in this world? You guys just have as much right to live and your existence should be respected just like everyone else. Reading all of these confessions of being taken advantage of for being too caring and being hurt by it, it would be better to see a "hey-I'm-a-dominantly-caring-person-and-I'll-guide-you-through-life." It's like being the bigger person, the older brother/sister who has authority. I'm pretty sure that the deep understanding that infjs have can make them seem intelligent or wise. I mean, who would find that awkward or weird? Goodness, if you're young and you have a good head on your shoulders, it proves that you can take control of your life and live your dreams successfully. So, make use of what you got into a positive. Do not let this "rareness" go to your head to isolate yourself from people because that is unhealthy. You can live a normal life and love.
INFJ Confession 1551) Sometimes, it's okay to be raw with your emotions or express what you think to others. I'm tired of seeing unique, talented people get pushed to the curb by "society". Instead of trying to people please with the burden of countless disappointments from the imperfect human flaw, I think it's best if infjs can take the lead and show these people how they exist. Speaking your mind and personality shows that not only that you are willingly to accept people's existence, but they will accept yours.
INFJ Confession 1549) Sometimes I create "masks" of my personality based on how I perceive people. If I think they're "silly" or "hard to take seriously", I become a deadpan snarker with some tsudere mixed in. A "quiet" person opens my more friendly and hospitable self who seeks to learn more about them. Strangers get a "default" mask that is average in every aspect. Is this strange or is this a part of dealing with different people? I wish it didn't involve making masks based on probably shallow judgments.
INFJ Confession 1548) I have grown accustomed to observing and mentally filing the traits, personality, habits, etc. of people around me. I worry that I may sometimes be manipulating them to my advantage. It's subtle, but I tend to feel bad when I get them to react in the ways I want them to. It doesn't help that I find them "predictable". However, those who always surprise me never fall into this scope. I tend to respect and fall for these people easily, though it's not to say that I don't respect the others.
INFJ Confession 1547) Part of me wants you realize exactly what you lost by lying to me. Another part of me wants you to forget that we were ever friends. I seriously don't think I'll be able to let you enter my life again. I think of scenarios where any of the possible things you could do or say, and it's never enough to heal what was broken. It's never enough to truly be able to accept you into my life. You couldn't appreciate my worth for what it was, you couldn't see who I was.
INFJ Confession 1545) I think I would be an absolutely fantastic lover. If I find someone I like, I pour my soul out for them. I don't think I'll ever be happy until I find someone who listens to my insane thoughts and cares about me, the thought about someone loving me seems like a distant dream.
INFJ Confession 1544) I love pacing around the house. I pretend im talking to people i know and I pretend were haveing a conversation, these make belive talk sessions I'm my head sometimes make me happier then actually talking to that person. I spend so much time in my head I feel like I'm going insane some days
INFJ Confession 1543) I really feel that with my two sided thinking, like the the way I aft and the things I say, mixed with the roller coaster in my head, equals to me being alone forever. The thought of someone actually loving me is so scary, and the thought of myself being in love, and possibly being dumped, scares me more, if that were to happen my insides would be even more broken then anything. I havnt even kissed a boy and I'm 17 and I just feel like a fish out of water
INFJ Confession 1542) I want to makeout with my best guy friend so badly but I feel like if I do one of my close friends is going to hate me for it because he's her best guy friend too and she used to like him at one point but he wasn't interested. He tried kissing me last weekend and I was oblivious. Now I feel like I missed out on a chance. I just want to have fun for once in my life and not think about consequences but it's so difficult. What the hell do I do, fellow INFJs?
INFJ Confession 1541) With regards to all the ENFP talk going on earlier, I just wanted to add my bit about them. I'm not the type of person to generally attract attention; I'll admit I'm a bit outgoing for an I, but I'm otherwise a wallflower and happily so. somehow, ENFPs still pick me out and seek friendship, attention, romance, etc. Their need to please becomes especially apparent around myself and fellow INFJs. Its just an observation I've made about them. Wondering if any others can relate.
INFJ Confession 1540) I have had many "friends" in my life, we hang out, have fun & talk. But when we talk we never really TALK. Our conversations usually are very shallow and about things going on in our day to day lives, but if we somehow get into something a little bit deeper, I am helping them through some sort of problem (but never vice versa). Although i hate to say it, it is hard for me to honestly call these people close friends because we barely know each other on the level the level that i feel we need too.
INFJ Confession 1539) I have the biggest crush on an ENFP. I suppose the best way to put it is that he fills me in all the areas of my mind and heart where I lack something. I'm so ridiculously happy, and I hope all of you find someone that makes you feel the same.
INFJ Confession 1538) One of my best friend's grandmother has passed away recently. The day after he told me this, I carelessly forgot and decided to ask him about my own trivial matters, which rightfully evoked his distraught expression. I never had any close relations to anyone beyond my nuclear family. I knew it was sad, but I underestimated how he felt about it. His grandmother was, he said, "the matriarch of the family". I feel terrible for being so thoughtless. I hope we're okay. I wish his family the best.
INFJ Confession 1537) I tend to keep a tight-knit circle of friends. I feel exhausted around too many people; I want only a few best friends whom I can confide in and who I am able to support in a balanced manner. If I feel our connection is mutual, I'm happy. Sometimes I suspect that a friend does not care for me like I care for them. I panic and eventually distance myself from them. I feel betrayed otherwise for telling them so much about myself when I barely know about them. But I worry that I'm being too uptight.
INFJ Confession 1536) Sometimes I wish that I had a group of close friends, but I don't even have one. There are very few people that I meet that I feel I could create a close bond with, and when I do meet someone that I would like to get to know better I have no idea how to turn a person from an acquaintance into a friend. I'm married and I have a large extended family, but there is nobody that I feel that I can talk to on a deep level, and many of my relationships feel shallow and superficial.
Ever since I was a child I’ve had a strange relationship with “awareness”. Most of the time I can simply go through life not paying much attention to my existence, blissful and content. There were however these moments of extreme negative awareness. I don’t know exactly how to describe it, but I would become very aware of my surroundings and myself and it would feel sickening. I would start to question whether or not I was real, and if the world around me was real. This horrified me as a child so I tried to end these moments by thinking about something else, which usually worked. I still have these moments of negative awareness, maybe every 2 or 3 months. Though I’ve learned to cope with them, I hate the experience.
Just recently, in the past 3 years, I’ve begun to have moments of extreme positive awareness. All of a sudden colors will become more vivid, the world gets brighter, everything seems to gain clarity. Unfortunately these moments are fleeting and don’t seem to affect my mood. I do enjoy these moments, because I wonder if that’s how everyone else sees the world all the time. I often feel as though I am floating through life with nothing to ground me, and if I stop to think about it, the world doesn’t seem that real to me most of the time.
This is mostly one huge confession, but I do wonder if other people experience this strange shift in awareness. Is it an INFJ thing? Is it something that affects everyone regardless of type? Am I chemically imbalanced?
It’s strange and frightening, but ultimately, it’s just part of who I am.