INFJ Confession 1926) Most of the people I used to call good friends are no longer good friends anymore, because the long distance I've had to create due to work has tested them too much. They can't do it like I can, and they're horrid correspondents. I just keep losing friends and my small circle of close friends is now tiny. Which means I'll have to put myself out there to meet more potentials for that circle, but that is such an effort, and it scares me
INFJ Confession 1925) I always want to be the best. I feel like I need to be in order to truly feel self adequate. But I'm so conflicted by this it hurts, I wish achievement and good for people, hence I don't know how I could be so selfish to say that I have to be number 1. It makes me feel like a villain, but I think all the time, I want to be better than everyone else. But that is ridiculous!
INFJ Confession 1923) I don't know if other infjs have felt this but, I've had a few periods in my life where I reevaluated my life by reviewing all the things I believed when I was younger or an earlier time and why I believed them. Sometimes, I feel like burying my face in my hands because of a few mistakes and beliefs that were planted in my head as a kid. Now, I feel more intelligent and aware of the world around me. I know I still have a lot to learn though.
INFJ Confession 1922) I find that as an INFJ, I have a tendency to be way too self-absorbed. I wallow in self-pity when there are other people who need me. Eventually, I come around, and feel horrible for being so self-absorbed... Which just turns into a kind of do-loop...
INFJ Confession 1918) I find myself talking to people in order to figure them out. I talk about mundane things while they reveal their life story. Does it make me manipulative that I don't share yet they get the impression that I have?
INFJ Confession 1917) Only if I had a nickel for every time I was taken for granted, taken advantage of, ignored! Why do I bloody care so much and why do people have to be diplomatic instead of nice and fair?
INFJ Confession 1916) Whenever I show people my room I am self-conscious because it is my safe haven and I fear that they won't understand the clutter, the bookshelf FULL of journals dating back from middle school or all the sentimental tokens from different memories in my life. I'm afraid my lifestyle isn't as great as theirs - because when they are outside playing I am inside - enjoying myself and a book.
INFJ Confession 1914) I remember that there was this one person who called me 'evil'. But I knew that my heart was in the right place and that the insult was incorrect. What I learned is that, not everything that people think or say is completely true. Sometimes, it can be a misunderstanding. After all, being human is neither right or wrong, like a half-liquid glass. We're stuck in the middle and it's up to us to choose.
INFJ Confession 1912) I fainted today out of anxiety, while someone was telling me about a painful experience at the doctor. This had happened before, when a friend was telling me about childbirth. It seems like I have some sort of pain phobia, I can't even watch scenes where characters are experiencing intense pain. This scares me because it's part of life and you can't avoid it. I hate anxiety, it makes me feel so fucking weak. Ugh.
INFJ Confession 1911) I'm friends with a guy who is pretty popular (I am not at all) and we get along pretty well except when he starts to talk about all of his friends or anything having to do with how popular he is at school, I just freeze up and it gets awkward because I'm so unfamiliar with popularity and how to deal with popular people...
INFJ Confession 1910) I'm so angry that I've spent most of this morning crying. It isn't one thing, just a million little injustices and heartbreaks that have finally built up until I don't know what to do with this mess I've got inside.
INFJ Confession 1907) I generally dislike sarcasm. It either feels like an outright lie, or just a waste of time distracting from getting the truth. I can appreciate it at times, when joking around with friends, but when trying to get information, details, or a story out of someone, it's just plain annoying.
INFJ Confession 1906) When I have a lot of work emails to answer, I get overwhelmed and don't want to answer any. Emailing should be so much easier for me than phone conversation, but sometimes I'll put it off for days. I'm not really sure how to get over the mental barrier.
INFJ Confession 1904) I am always so damn frustrated with myself! No matter what decisions I make and what outcomes I get, I'm frustrated! I want better from myself and from society and life, but it just doesn't come! :(
Hello, I just wanted to write a thank you to this blog and to all the INFJs who have submitted secrets here. When I first came across this blog, I wasn't very familiar with Jung/Myers-Briggs personality types, and originally followed just out of curiousity. Now as I have had more time to analyze myself and read all these confessions, I think I have realized that I am not an INFJ but rather an ISTJ. Again, a big thank you to this blog for helping me analyze who I am.
INFJ Confession 1902) I always feel alone in my family because I'm an INFJ while my other family members are extroverted. They always say I need counseling because I don't talk enough and don't like going out all the time. My mom constantly bugs me and pushes me out of my comfort zone. I really wish there was a handbook about INFJs that you could hand out to the people around you so they'd understand what you were feeling and how you think. I'm sick of everyone telling me I have problems because of my personality.
I'm confused right now. From the first MBTI test i took it said i was infj, but lately its been a mix of infj and infp. I feel like i can relate greatly to both so i dont know what to do now. I just took another test about a minute ago and like always get INF & this time my results were (P) 51.43% (J) 48.57%. When it comes to P and J they are always very close to 50%. I relate to many of these confessions and have found that people relate to me. But now im not sure if i belong here. Help Please.
You can be both :) many of our lovely people here are borderline INFJ/INTJ or INFJ/INFP :) some are even ENFJ/INFJ or ISFJ/INFJ!
INFJ Perk 2) The number one thing I love about being an INFJ is my ability to verbalize others' feelings for them. When someone is struggling to put their experiences into words, I am able to provide them with the words they're searching for.
Do you believe in things like psychic abilities? And if so, do you think that many INFJs are empaths?
I do, but I see the certain psychic abilities which I think are real (because I’ve experienced them) as undiscovered science more than anything supernatural.
I think when we’re in the presence of someone and can read and empathise with their feeilngs it is largely because we may be more sensitive to the chemicals released by the brain? like a super developed sense of smell? hah.
I don’t know what the hell is up when you’re able to know how someone is feeling when you haven’t seen in months and lives on the other side of the world and though you haven’t had any contact with for weeks, but yeah basically yes I guess. xx
In response to the guy asking for an online resource of someone to talk to...
This is a great resource for anyone wanting to talk about problems they have. I personally know Dawson, the guy behind the operation, and he’s done this for years. Great stuff =) http://www.thehopeline.com/CSDefault.aspx
I do agree that the HumanMetrics test is over simplified and probably not accurate, but on the other link you provided I always test out as INFP or ISFJ when I'm clearly INFJ - and sometimes it's not even on the third possibility. I've been studying the functions for some time, but now I started to question it. After all, is there an official test or something?
I have no idea, I feel it’s detrimental to tell people they’re not INFJs, the person who sent me the request to reblog it actually labelled it “A demand” so I was very uncomfortable posting it and delayed it although I felt it was my duty to, but when two IRL acquaintances who are very much not INFJs got that result, I figured they might be right.
I’m not knowledgeable in the least, I’m not a professional, I don’t even particularly care, I just wanted people who felt miserable in a way similar to me due to how they dealt with things to be able to vent somewhere, I know nothing, sorry x
I just want to wish all of you a good day! I'm currently letting my imagination run wild as I lay here on the beaches of San Diego and want to remind you the best thing we can give ourselves is to be completely consumed in the happy part of our own imagination.
Hey, would you guys be interested in having a HP house poll? I'm just curious to see if which houses we mostly identify with!
I once saw a poll doing the rounds with all the MBTI types and houses as assigned by an online test, rather than personal preferences. I think that would be interesting, if anyone could link me it through the fanmail function, I’d appreciate it!
Otherwise I will add this to the list of polls that one day we’ll do xx
Inaccurate, over simplified, and just generally bullshit. “You are almost never late for your appointments” is a horrible way to determine wheter you’re P or J. “You enjoy having a wide circle of acquaintances” is also a terrible way to determine wheter you’re Introvert or Extrovert. “YES” and “NO” is a horrifyingly wrong way to answer these types of questions. There has to be a middle ground, there has to be “leaning towards, but not exactly”. Not everything is that black and white.
I was wondering for a while, how the hell there are so many INTJs and INFJs everywhere, well now i have my answer. I asked my ISTP friend to take this test, and he scored as INTJ 2 times. We’re both 100% positive that this is simply wrong.
So chances are, if you took this test, that you are not the type you think you are.
INFJ Confession 1900) I attach to people very quickly once I spend one-on-one time with them, but I feel like sometimes I use them. I detach myself after I've told them my biggest secret so I can see if they'll hang on to me or not. Sometimes I think I'm crazy, Does anyone else do this?
INFJ Confession 1899) Sometimes I feel like I know people better then they know themselves. And when I can no longer hold back my understanding of their inner self they cannot see the truth of my words. And then I feel like a crazy narcissist because who am I to know someone better than they know themselves? Am I creating a story for them that is not who they actually are? How can I trust my intuition when I am being directly contradicted by the other? What is real and what is self aggrandizing delusion?
Hey, you’ve posted one of his videos a while ago, but I would highly suggest anyone who’s interested (and even those who aren’t, ha ha) watch the videos from DaveSuperPowers.
It’s all about functions and really sheds a lot of light on why online MBTI tests are practically useless and how to accurately type yourself and/or others.
Also, it’s some of the best information on the functions I’ve been able to find. It really gives you a good idea what the differences are and how they work together in a very simple and easy to understand way.
INFJ Confession 1898) Because I can almost always see both sides of an issue I end up being really indecisive. I can also convince myself that I really like, or really don't like something, based on which parts I choose to focus on.
INFJ Confession 1895) My best friend is moving away from me. Death, I understand and can deal with. Willingly leaving is another story. On some level I know there must be a reason for it, but right now I can't get past my selfish emotions and I hate myself for it. I wish her leaving didn't hurt so bad, but she's one of the few that I actually let see some part of who I truly am, and she didn't run. I wish I could turn my emotional side off and be more like INTJ's instead of so wrapped in my emotions.
INFJ Confession 1894) I am so sick of being told, "Well, that's just the way it is, so you better get used to it." No! The world is very much capable of being better and I refuse to lay down and accept injustice and unfairness simply because it would be hard to change. That sort of complacent attitude makes my blood boil.